Saturday, January 26, 2013

7 Strategies to Become a Better Public Speaker



It was Dale Carnegie who said, “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” A common fear among many people is the fear of public speaking. The idea of standing in front of an audience to persuade or present often causes worry and anxiety, but it doesn’t have to. If you can remember Dale Carnegie’s words about fear and follow the strategies below, you will overcome your public speaking fear in no time.


1.     Think Out Your Ideas
In order to speak well in front of multiple people, you need to have your entire presentation planned out. Just as you would create an outline for a research paper, you should do the same for your presentation. You’ll need to support your ideas, so think of examples that you can use as evidence. Try to structure your thoughts in a way that makes sense, and create a sense of completeness with a beginning, middle, and end.

2.     Be Prepared
You will need to practice your speech significantly in order to feel confident while speaking. Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare or you will not feel ready to present. Instead of trying to memorize every word, only memorize the key points of your outline and the examples you will be using for support. You want to be engaged, not robotic-sounding. Your speech should flow naturally, as if you were having a conversation with another person.

3.     Start Confidently
The opening of your presentation will determine how the rest of the speech goes, so speak with assertiveness and at a volume where everyone can easily hear you. Try opening with a strong statement and bold language in order to convey confidence. Remember that the audience has no prior opinions or thoughts on what you are going to say, and you are the authoritative source in this situation.

4.     Make Eye Contact
Throughout your presentation, it is important to make eye contact with individuals in the room. While you should not focus on one particular person for two long, it is okay to hold someone’s gaze for a few seconds. If you look at the floor or in a random direction, your audience will sense that you are not as engaged as you could be. Making eye contact lets your listeners know that you believe in what you are saying and that you are there to inform them about something new.

5.     Slow Down
A beginner’s mistake when it comes to public speaking is to rush through the presentation. When you walk to the podium or front of the room, take a deep breath, look at your audience, and even count to five before starting to speak. It may feel like an eternity, but it will seem like a normal amount of time to the people in the room. Remember to speak clearly and annunciate your words. You should have a slight pause after commas and between sentences, and an even bigger pause between paragraphs or major points in your argument.

6.     Stay Steady
Most people know that it’s important not to fidget during a presentation, but it’s also crucial that you limit your movement as much as possible. Slight swaying or talking with your hands can be just as distracting as ordinary fidgeting. Stand with your feet about shoulder width apart, keep your head up, and plant your feet firmly to the ground. It may feel awkward to hold this stance for a long time, but it will help you to stand up straight and look more confident while you speak.

7.     Be Human
Remember: it’s okay to be nervous. In fact, it’s normal. Don’t worry about seeming nervous in front of others, since everybody in the room has had to give a presentation at one point and understands how you feel. If you make a mistake, that’s okay too. Just take a deep breath and pick up where you left off. Keep in mind that everyone in the room is looking forward to hearing what you have to say.

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هكذا يكون الحب




لقد شاهدت هذه الحلقة منذ 10 سنوات و تأثرت لسماع تلك القصص الثلاث..

استشعرت معنى كيف يبارك الله بتقوى ما قبل الزواج و كيف تزيد الطاعات بين الزوج و الزوجة الحب بينهم مهما مر بهم الزمان و اخيرا كيف يؤدي الإحترام المتبادل و الثقة المتبدلة و المساندة النفسية المستمرة إلى محبة كل طرف للطرف الاخر و لو بعد مماته.

اللهم ارزقنا جميعا بأن نعيش تلك المعاني في الدنيا
و الا تجعل الدنيا اكبر همنا
و اجعل خير اعملنا خواتيمها

Saturday, January 19, 2013

My Reflection


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 I remember watching supernanny's episode, when she was talking to a mother who had a fight with her son. Jo told her few words that I can't forget "It takes two to fight", I realized that your behavior and the way you react with others isn't one way directed, oppositely, it's bidirectional. The way other people treat you reflects on the way you treat them back and vice verse. I knew this meaning but I experienced it more on a recent situation.

When you've got used to protect yourself from being hurt by others, and being careful not being a reason for others sadness or tears. This complex the way you deal with others in different situations, because you are always processing all the possibilities of what will happen and the consequences of what already happened. Also the closeness of the person you are dealing with effects on the seriousness of protect/careful feelings, and the bad thing is that you wish you can resolve this quickly because of the tense it's creating.

I had a close person who was treating me in a different way, I tried to assume that it's out of stress and that there is no bad intention of meaning to hurt me. But eventually, I felt depressed and furious wishing I can release my worries, so I tried to confront this person by simply asking if there is something going wrong. The best part is that this person is also full of worries trying to keep it to himself/herself so it won't affect me. So I realized it's just that both of us are careful not to hurt each other but I do it by escaping from people being careful not to hurt them and that person was in a defensive mode hiding the worries but showing tense instead.

I find out that worries don't matter because there will always be something that we worry about, causing us to behave differently but the fact that "It takes two to understand each other". Your attempts to understand the other person lead him/her to appreciate your effort by reflecting his/her acts towards you leading in a mutual understanding and trust. You will be able to trust each other based on the understanding common ground you are sharing together, with this new perception, it made me more relaxed and confident in dealing with difficulties.

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Friday, January 18, 2013

حسن الظن بالله - بسمة أمل



هل تحب مشيئة الله؟



احيانا نلمح في كلمنا بشكوى من حالنا و ما نمر به من أحداث او حتى بأشياء تحدث من حولنا كسوء احوال الجو.. و ننسى ان من شاء ان تمر بهذا الموقف و هذا الحدث و كيف يصبح الكون في كل يوم و كيف يمسي في كل ليلة يندرج تحت مشيئة الله.

عندما ادركت هذا المعنى شعرت بالخجل من حال لساني الشاكي في السر و العلن، اود أن اشارككم كلمات مؤثرة للشيخ ابن العثيمين رحمه الله.

قال الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمه الله :

" كل شيء معلق بمشيئة الله فإنه مقرون بالحكمة ؛ لأن الله عز وجل لا يشاء مشيئة مجردة ، بل مشيئته تابعة لحكمته ، ودليل ذلك قوله تعالى : ( وما تشاءون إلا أن يشاء الله إن الله كان عليما حكيما ) ..فقوله تعالى : ( إن الله كان عليما حكيما ) يدل على أن مشيئته مقرونة بالعلم والحكمة . "

لو استشعرنا بصدق ان وراء كل شئ يحدث في حياتنا حكمة الله و علمه و ليس مشيئتنا الشخصية.. فسيكون الرضا شعارنا و يزداد الإيمان بقلوبنا.

اللهم زدنا حبا لك و لمشيئتك
و ارزقنا يقيننا بأن الخير فيما كتبته لنا
و لا تجعل للشيطان سلطنا علينا
و لا تجعل الدنيا اكبر همنا
و لا الى النار مصيرنا
و اجمعنا و اهلنا و من احببنا في الدنيا مع رسولك صلى الله عليه و سلم في الجنة
اميــــــــــــــــــن